Psychological Sadism 103: Advanced Verbal Manipulation Paradigms

Advanced Verbal Manipulation Paradigms is taught with a model and is partially theory, and partially practical. You will learn how to incorporate multiple dynamics of carrot and stick into a single sexual dialectic.

Adding pride to the ego-shame dynamic creates a synthesis: simultaneously suppressing the self-criticisms of the sub’s ego while stroking their id’s desires, and offering a synthesis of pleasure mutually aligned with both the id and ego, by offering the Dommes proud external ego as a temporary replacement for the sub’s self-critical ego. In this way, the carrots of sexual pleasure and external pride, mixed with the empowering rejection of self-criticism, encourage the sub to validate their base desires and find pride rather than shame in them, ultimately moving towards a genuine synthesis in self, aligning their own ego with id and thereby transforming rather than repressing shame and giving rise to confident self-determination.

In this manner, the Domina creates space for the sub to address the conflict between their desires and shame, and choose to subjugate their ego by validating their primal desires, and through that validation of foundational desire transmute shame through a synthesis of pleasure and pain, to create pride in submission to their own shameful desires and self-value in the degradation of their servitude to Mistress’ pleasure. 

This class is available as an online course! Online courses are two-hour video chats with the Professorin. If you would like to take this class online rather than in person in Berlin, simply mention that in the sign-up form.


Class Info

The lessons at Miss Kill’s Domina Finishing School are private lessons held at the studio in Weisensee, Berlin. The classes are offered for a wide range of skill sets from absolute amateurs and casual players to professional Dominatrixes. Private lessons are two hours long and you are the only student so that you can have the undivided attention of the Professorin and model as well as learning in a safe and private atmosphere where you can ask as many questions as you need. For relevant individual lessons, a model will be provided to practice on. Classes can also be booked by couples or small groups.

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    Classes are offered on a sliding scale for a personalized and private 2-hour class

    Private Lessons
    100-150€ / 2hrs

    Sliding Scale, choose your own price.

    Student Discount
    75€ / 2hrs

    If you are underemployed, full time student, or struggling for any reason, available without question or explanation.

    Sponsored Lessons
    50€ / 2hrs

    I am able to offer some further discounted classes for trans folks, refugees, and intersectional minorities. These classes are in part sponsored by other students. We will find something that suits you.


    If you are taking a Domina class in a subject that requires a model to practice on, Miss Kill will provide a FLINTA bdsm model for you to practice tying/whipping etc. The model is paid 50€ additional to the lesson cost.

    Couples Lessons
    75€ each (150€ total) / 2hrs

    One of you will be the student, and one of you will be the model. If you would both like to play both roles, you can book back to back sessions

    Group Lessons
    60€ per person / 2hrs

    Learn with your friends! You can all be students or you can trade off modeling for eachother. 4 students max.