In this course you will learn how to use verbal domination in a BDSM setting. You will learn about the Misattribution of Arousal effect that conflates fear and pleasure, and then how to differentiate between humiliation and degradation. You will be taught a dozen distinct subtypes of degradation, and as well as how those subtypes appear differently in the context of humiliation. You will learn how to use them to contrast and elevate Manipulative Praise. By weaving pleasure and pain into a single narrative you will learn how to create a synthesis of the two through Mixed-Modal Manipulation.

Humiliation and degradation have particular resonances with those who enjoy them. Broad, unconsidered strokes can be inadvertently harmful; so finding the verbal scalpel is not only more effective, but more safe. Adding in pride to the ego-shame dynamic creates a synthesis: simultaneously suppressing the self-criticisms of the sub’s ego while stroking their ids desires, and offering a synthesis of pleasure mutually aligned with both the id and ego, by offering the Dommes proud external ego as a temporary replacement for the sub’s self-critical ego. In this way the carrots of sexual pleasure and external pride, mixed with the empowering rejection of self criticism, encourage the sub to validate their base desires and find pride rather than shame in them, ultimately moving towards a genuine synthesis in self, aligning their own ego with id and thereby transforming rather than repressing shame and giving rise to confident self-determination.

In this manner the Domina creates space for the sub to address the conflict between their desires and shame, and choose to subjugate their ego by validating their primal desires, and through that validation of foundational desire transmute shame through a synthesis of pleasure and pain, to create pride in submission to their own shameful desires and self value in the degradation of their servitude to Mistress’ pleasure. 

Lessons:

Psychological SkillsVerbal Domination

Psychological Sadism 101: Finding the Verbal Scalpel

Psychological SkillsVerbal Domination

Psychological Sadism 102: Synthesis of Joy and Shame

Psychological SkillsVerbal Domination

Psychological Sadism 103: Advanced Verbal Manipulation Paradigms

Psychological Skills

Dynamics of Inverted Power Exchange

Class Info

The lessons at Miss Kill’s Domina Finishing School are private lessons held at the studio in Weisensee, Berlin. The classes are offered for a wide range of skill sets from absolute amateurs and casual players to professional Dominatrixes. Private lessons are two hours long and you are the only student so that you can have the undivided attention of the Professorin and model as well as learning in a safe and private atmosphere where you can ask as many questions as you need. For relevant individual lessons, a model will be provided to practice on. Classes can also be booked by couples or small groups.